Praise and Criticism

Praise is good and almost everyone likes, but the criticism …

In the corporate world is common to find situations where relationships are based on criticism and punishment.

Studies of human behavior show that children from our parents and adults with whom we live plays a fundamental role for the success of our careers and personal actions. The amount of criticism and praise we received can be crucial to our future.

Research in psychology shows that people who were exposed to environments of much criticism and punishment tend to develop a pattern of omission and submission. Accept everything and feel constantly guilty. Their productivity is generally below the new market demands. When charged for a certain outcome is elusive, make excuses or crying. Another pattern of behavior that can be generated in that environment is completely opposite. A person acting in an aggressive, defensive and defiant. When pressed tends to act compulsively.

Those that were too praised characteristics of arrogance and conceit. They believe that the world is always at your feet. Treat others as subjects. They despise the hierarchies and want power at all costs. Have difficulties to understand the ethical dimension of relationships.

The balance between criticism and praise in his personal life and in the corporate world is crucial for the generation of a good family atmosphere and professional. Some companies encourage their employees to feedback sessions scheduled. Other structure various types of assessments, such as: competence, performance, performance, etc. participatory goals. So, is more likely to point out clearly the paths, collecting results ecri an organizational culture for change. Amid all this, it is essential to training and leadership development. The leader’s role is the main criteria to establish and implement the criticism and praise. Therefore, to ensure balance in the organizational climate and increase productivity.

The criticism, in essence, means examination, appreciation made of a work. So when we do a review it should be on all the work, an idea, actions taken, facts and not on one person. What often occurs in everyday professional and social life is exactly the opposite. Therefore, most people have difficulty accepting criticism, because they feel threatened, punished, neglected and even humiliated.

This reminds me of the story experienced by Peter, or as the closest called him: Pedrão. Subject friendly, talkative, always with a smile on his face, showing always be at peace with life. Its main feature was the honesty. Always spoke his mind. Once Pedrão was summoned to participate in a project where there was a lot of experience. Like his boss insisted and said he would give all support, Pedrão accepted, after all could be another opportunity to show their qualities. The project started and our brave character began to realize that all this had nothing to do with its area of operation and therefore need more time to study, learn and to collaborate on the project. Surely this time was not given, after the deadline for the project was too short and needed all the efforts of those involved. The fact is that Pedrão did not do very well. Lost days leaning on materials, books, booklets and reports to try to understand the project. Spent more hours in the company to account for their service and become familiar with the plan. All in vain. The result was a gastritis that has to live with it daily and Homeric fight he had with the head of the project. Gastritis does not matter detail, but on the discussion …

It all started when Pedrão decided to point out some flaws in the conduct of the project. In fact, the charge of the project really made some mistakes in planning and this has generated some delay, but was not the main factor. There was a mixture of lack of staff, lack of experience of participants, very short, lack of support from management and other minor details. At the end fell to the Pedrão.

One day in the middle of one of the many planning meetings – armed with good intentions – Tasco’s famous “constructive criticism”. He said it contained serious flaws and that it was not complete on time. He also pointed to the inability of the coordinator to lead the team. His direct and full of “speculations” shocked everyone. At this meeting, as well as coordinator of the project were six people from different areas who completed the team. The result was catastrophic! The person was offended and shouted: as someone who has experience in the subject can say something like that, even in front of everyone?

Well, the conclusion of this story is that constructive criticism is non-sense. It will only be constructive if the other one you choose. If they feel their usefulness. When a complaint is appointed, no matter how good the intention, the other can only judge your application. In summary criticism is critical, ie, it is considered unfavorable, is to point out flaws, is censorship. The way it is done can change a lot until its acceptance.

Therefore, before making a criticism is essential to understand if the time is right, choose the appropriate location and analyze the results that this action may generate. Even though most true, not everyone will understand that. When you make a critical go straight to the point and present facts. For as the popular saying goes against facts there are no arguments.

Returning to the beginning of this article: to criticize is easy, since praise … Remember that in terms of critical praise and the following rule applies: critique in particular, only for the people involved, and praise him publicly, because everyone will feel proud to belong to an organization where people are recognized and valued for their character and competence .